How to Confront or Talk About an Issue:
- Define the issue.
Disagreements, differing opinions (attitudes, feelings, motives, behaviors)
Decide if it is an issue to confront, feelings of your own to share, or you would like to work at getting on the same page on a particular issue.
- Overlook Minor Offenses
Overlook: Proverbs 19:11; 12:16; 20:3
Drop the matter: Proverbs 17:14
Bear with one another; Keep unity and peace, forgive each other Eph. 4:2-3; 4:31-32
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you have Col. 3:13
Turn the other cheek Matt. 5:38-39
- Check your Attitude and Change it
Get rid of anger: Eph. 4:31; James 1:19-20; Prov. 20:11; Ecc. 7:9; Prov. 15:18; Col. 3:8; Matt. 5:22; Psalm 37:8-9 If anger is a result of a blocked goal, change it to a desire.
Recommit to Ministry rather than control or judge: Phil. 2:3; 1 Pet. 4:10; Matt. 20:27-28; Rom. 12:10; Eph. 5:21-22 and 25-28
What attitude should you have?
A desire to “win him over,” Matt. 18
A desire to “restore him gently.” Gal. 6:1
Humble Gal. 6:3-4
Humble, gentle, patient, bearing with one another in love Eph. 4:2
A desiring for unity and peace Eph. 4:3
Compassionate, kind, humble, gentle and patient Col 3:12
A desire to bear with him and forgive him Col 3:13
Love Col. 3:14
A desire for unity and peace Col. 3:14-15
Not a desire to quarrel 2 Tim. 2:24
Kind, not resentful 2 Tim. 2:24
Gentle 2 Tim. 2:25
A desire that God would grant him repentance 2 Tim 2:25
A desire that they would escape the trap of the devil 2 Tim 2:26
A desire to reconcile Matt. 5:23-24
A lack of judgment or punishment Luke 6:37-42; Matt 7:1-5; John 8:7; James 4:11-12; Rom. 2:1-3
A lack of anger Eph. 4:31; James 1:19-20; Prov. 20:11; Ecc. 7:9; Prov. 15:18; Col. 3:8; Matt. 5:22; Psalm 37:8-9
A lack of retaliation 1 Peter 3:9; Rom. 12 17
- The Goal:
Rescue him from the trap of the devil (2 Tim. 2:25—26)
Win him over (Matt. 18:15)
Restore him (Gal. 6:1)
Unity, Peace, To Forgive him (Col. 3: 12-14; Eph. 4:2-3;)
Repentance (2 Tim. 2:25—26)
Reconciliation (Matt. 5:23-24)
